Comments:

Neko - 2005-05-12 18:31:01
Hey, Aim. I know this is an overly-simple suggestion, but just fucking start getting rid of stuff, man. Just do some mad spring cleaning on your house and if others have a problem with it, tell them "tough shit." Just throw it all out. Spend the day making trips to Good Will. De-cluttering is more freeing than you can ever imagine. I've got this book called "Stop Clutter From Stealing Your Life" (http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/1564145026/qid=1115936872/sr=2-1/ref=pd_bbs_b_2_1/104-1643451-0003934). The same author also does "Stop Clutter From Wrecking Your Family." Maybe that's not the answer to the feeling that you don't have a handle on things, but I tell you what... it will be a HUGE change. You'll breathe so much easier.
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Neko again - 2005-05-12 18:38:05
P.S. Those books address the psychologial aspects of clutter, so you feel like you're releasing something inside when you read them and then do it. It's really amazing. Some therapists even give them to their patients.
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Jackie - 2005-05-12 20:36:22
Oh but hon, let's think of the positives. Evil Childe is getting so close to 18!!! And although that does not instantaneously guarantee her moving out, at least anything she does after that point is not your responsibility! And, then, when she does go, at least you've still got the Prince and the cats! And Neko is right, it's time to get rid of some shit. Just let it go! You can live without it! Watch that show on TLC or whatever channel it is, when they go through their stuff and sell it at a yard sale.

And of course there's always alcohol. ;)
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cat - 2005-05-13 01:55:47
Geez Aimee, I'm sorry everything's so crappy. It sounds like a bad case of overwhelmitis...and that NEVER feels good and you know what? Not wanting to go home and face all that shit is a perfectly normal and reasonable response to such a situation. How about for every task you accomplish, you're allowed one night of getting blottoed? A little over the top? Okay...a glass of wine or a can of beer or alcoholic beverage of your choice for every task accomplished. Better? :-) *Hugs*
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Carrie - 2005-05-13 13:54:41
Yes, I think a reward system is definitely in order. You deserve utter joy and happiness dear A. And some pampering. Pampering of ones self is always good. Manicure and Pedicure this weekend?
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LA - 2005-05-13 17:29:03
Yup. Start chucking stuff, girlie. If your place is anything like mine was I'd recommend starting with actual trash. Newspapers, catalogs, fast food wrappers, empty slurpee cups and anything and everything that's broken. You are never going to fix it. You are never going to 'repurpose' it into a zingy planter with photo storage. Scrap anything which is unusable in its present state. If you haven't fixed it by now then you don't want/need it badly enough to ever fix it. Same deal with clothes. Broken zippers, missing buttons, stains, holes, 'it'll fit again if I lose 20 pounds'...OUT! Throw it out! I am a different person since shedding my debris. I can think again. I'm not a frustrated wreck. Please give it a try. You have nothing to lose but your trash and everything to gain by being rid of it. Much love, ~LA
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